Thursday morning I awoke with an anxiety attack. I don’t know what I had been dreaming, but my first thought was about my son’s ankles and the fact that they’ve been hurting him for a few weeks, shortly after he started playing football. That one thought spiraled into worries about new shoes and getting him a new doctor and worrying about the health of our current doctor and how do I pay for my last medical bill and I hope the food bank has more produce next week because this week was a bust and we really need more vegetables in the house and I need to stop thinking, stop thinking, stop thinking.

Yeah.

Hello, 4:30am.

So I got up, drank coffee, ate half a banana, and took a 4 mile walk while listening to a gloriously smutty romance novel. (Unfortunately Yours by Tessa Bailey–Anything by Bailey is fun and often smutty. Delicious!) My hip was screaming by the end of the walk, but at least I wasn’t concerned about money. The time outside and moving my body was enough to clear my head and make a plan to at least have my son’s ankles wrapped before that day’s football practice. I just refused to worry about the other stuff the rest of the morning. It was just too much to think about. It was just too, too much.

The thing is…life is not horrible. It’s hard for sure. It’s a struggle. It’s scary not knowing…anything really. The political climate of this country does not help matters. My son, my beautiful child, is a political science/government/history junkie and so we tend to read, listen and watch more news than ever before. But I have now had to stop, because I can’t stop freaking the fuck out.

I’m ashamed to say that when I heard there had been an assassination attempt on former President Trump, I was disappointed to hear that it was only an attempt. The anger I have at Trump for installing so many jackasses to the Supreme Court and his party’s disgusting Project 2025 plan, made me hope for his death. And I’m not happy that I had that reaction. There is no place for political violence.

But I have to be honest in how I feel. We’re living in a country where many women no longer have a right to choose what they do to their own bodies, and where librarians and teachers are harassed and called “groomers” for providing access to books that represent children like mine.

This isn’t the same country I was born and raised in. It’s turning into a hateful place, where people no longer feel safe to speak how they feel about a political candidate unless they are in a group of like-minded individuals. And I am speaking about both Republicans and Democrats. As a liberal Democrat living in a small conservative town, I rarely feel comfortable expressing how I feel here. When you see Trump signs or F*ck Biden signs on just about every road, how else should I feel? But I also know of librarians that are Republicans that will not say a word about politics for fear of their colleagues damning them for their views.

You know, I rarely talk about politics publicly. I work in a public library so I keep my mouth shut while at work (except with some colleagues), and at home we do talk about politics but sometimes it’s just too exhausting. It is incredibly difficult to live with someone who disagrees with you politically. So most days we keep it to a minimum. That’s how we’ve remained married for nearly 27 years. Yet our son, who knows more about American history than we do, and is thoughtful and knowledgeable about our current political system, will bring facts and a sense of calm to our family discussions. (Facts and calm to political discussions. Isn’t that something?) I see my son and much of his generation as a beacon of hope. When they are of age to vote and run for office, I hope we will begin to see a change in our world for the better.

And hope is what we need right now. All of us. For a variety of reasons.

You know, I sent this photo to a friend recently who is no longer speaking to me. I’m not sure why they’re not speaking to me, but it may have nothing to do with me. It was a message to let them know that I have hope that our friendship will remain and hope that our lives will get better, but also just to say that I’m still here.

And I am. I’m here. And so are you. And I’m so happy and thankful for that. So let’s get through another night together. I know we can make it through. ❤